on this day of love… reflection

on this day of love, I decided that instead of moping around because I am without a lover, I was indulging in acts of love and self-love.

when you do things out of love, the outcome is never the worry. you just do, effortlessly. 

when you do things out of love, for yourself, you effortlessly remind yourself what it really means to be yourself. when you love yourself, without conditions, living authentically comes more naturally. it becomes who you are. love. 

self-love, to me, is incorporating all things that genuinely make you light and happy into your daily life, routines and interactions. this will look different to all people because we are all unique when it comes to our own love. but it will feel the same regardless. love is too strong to be hidden and it should not be.

when I think back on the times I have felt lonely or unloved, I realize now that I was not living my life with love. expecting it to just show up and out for me, when it IS me. it could have very well been right under my nose, the type of love we all crave and romanticize, but how could I know love if I was not actively participating? 

love is everywhere and in everything.

everyone and everything has their own language of love. we can miss out on so much limiting our minds to what we have been conditioned to believe is love. love has infinite expressions. 

once I started being more open to the many different expressions, love never left me. my lows are no longer so low. my highs match levels of ecstasy. and in between, I still focus on the love. 

what you put out, you get back. why not make it love?

just a few thoughts on the close of this day of love. 

love and light

xoxo 

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an open letter to creatives

in my opinion, artists of any kind, are held to a superhero type of level. people expect you to create constantly. people expect you to be in the mood constantly. people expect you to do something great or revolutionary with every piece. artists, on the other hand, know a completely different reality. days, nights, weeks, months, hell, maybe even years that lack inspiration. and in those moments of inspiration, artists create whatever they are feeling since that is what art is anyway. with that being said, this may cause what people refer to as pieces that look or sound the same. what these people do not realize is that artists have phases and the phases are very evident. Pablo Picasso comes to mind when I think of artistic phases. he had a rose period and a blue period. these were peak moments in his personal and evidently, artistic life. love and depression. passion and the absence of it. I guess all I’m trying to say is, artists, I understand, take as much time as you need to create whatever it is you wish to create. you may have fans and supporters, but you do not do it solely for them. your art and artistic expression are for you. you are the one with the heart, eyes, mind and soul that are going to see your art to the end. everyone else will only see the finished product.

keep making this world beautiful. keep creating and sharing your perspective of this world. most importantly, keep being you.

xoxo

people are just people: a lesson in compassion

these past few years have been scattered with a host of celebrity scandals, hook ups, break ups, break downs, and everything in between. the events themselves were not shocking or alarming. what was completely shocking and alarming is the way the public responded to such events. the issue is ongoing (they literally have celebrities read some of the mean shit people say about them online, it’s pretty sad). people taking time out of their day to spread hate across all social media platforms. people taking time out of their life to create petitions to basically ruin someone’s name, reputation, and life overall. for what? being in the spotlight and still succumbing to their human ways. in short, people are bullies. this is no new phenomenon, but social media has had cataclysmic affects in the amount of hate being spread, not only towards those considered celebrities.

most recent example of our society’s lack of compassion would be kanye west. after venting at a concert in Sacramento, twitter couldn’t wait to ‘cancel’ kanye. even came up with the hashtag #kanyeisoverparty. people ran with this and had a ball… literally bashing kanye for having what seems to be a sort of mental breakdown. the man’s wife almost got murked abroad, he has two young kids, and it is the anniversary of his mother’s passing… but despite his own life battles, he chose to continue on for his fans. with all the bullshit occurring and holiday season approaching, not only in America, but in the day to day life of every individual on this planet, you’d think people would be polishing up on their compassion skills, but that’s a different conversation. regardless of how you were raised or how high or low your confidence is, all people deserve to be treated kindly.firstly, i don’t understand why celebrities or people with a status or money are so highly regarded as if the same gun that will kill me or any other human, won’t affect them. we are all people. we all have our flaws. we all go through shit. quit putting people on pedestals. quit expecting things out of people. quit critiquing the way others choose to indulge in their human experience.

the main arguments that support bashing celebrities seem to be ‘but we support them’, ‘they have to be role models for the kids’, ‘they should use their platform for something better.’ i’m sorry to break it to some, but celebrities are people. nothing more, nothing less. don’t volunteer them for positions they did not sign up for. celebrities are only popular because of the support of masses of people. each and every person has the option of whether they wish to support someone. however, that does not give anyone  a justified reason to talk ill of someone that a) they do not know and probably will never meet b) who is equally human as we all are. people need to take a step back and control their voyeuristic and judgmental tendencies.

don’t be so quick to judge someone without attempting to place yourself in their shoes.

so… with all that being said, i’ll leave you with some tips on how to be more compassionate.

  1. LISTEN – actually listen. don’t listen long enough just to respond. hear people out. don’t focus so much on what is being said, focus on the emotion behind the words.
  2. EMPATHIZE – we all go through trials and tribulations and we all handle the same situations differently. take a step outside your ego and feel for someone.
  3. A PERSON IS THE SUM OF ALL THEIR ‘GOOD’ AND ‘BAD’ PARTS – when someone is going thru something and acting out of their normal character, don’t diminish their good qualities.

i hope i’ve left you with something(s) to think about.

xoxo